The 6 Most Unproductive Morning Habits

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The purpose of waking up before anybody else decides it for you is to use this time in silence and intention. You need to do things that otherwise are difficult to achieve when the kids or other family members are around, asking for your attention, time or cooperation.
It’s the time to do what you wouldn’t usually do because you don’t have the time, you think it requires too much effort, or you believe it to be selfish.

So here are some of the morning habits that defeat the purpose of waking up before your kids.

Browse social media

This extraordinary piece of technology is designed in such a way that we spend as long as possible browsing it. It satisfies a primal need for belonging to a tribe, as well as sharing, contributing, or just curiosity. This platform is not meant for a dip; it’s meant for a long soak. It happened to every single one of us, thinking we will get on socials for “just 5 minutes.” 2 hours later, we are late for school pick up because we got caught up in timelines and cute cat videos, genuinely puzzled about how it happened. Ok, maybe only I am the one watching one too many cute cat videos, but you get my point.
As much as browsing social media is a daily occurrence for a vast majority of us, doing it the first thing in the morning will automatically set you up for reacting rather than creating.

Check and respond to email

As with social media, email, even though an extraordinary means of communication, can be a time sucker. Writing or responding to email is just like an old-fashioned post office. Visualize spending your whole day focused on opening, closing, and replying to virtual envelopes.

Clean

For my personality type, outer chaos contributes to inner unrest. I feel much more at ease and calm when my environment is not cluttered. But cleaning up the kitchen or tidying up the toys is something I do in the night, not the first thing in the morning. Even though I enjoy taking care of my home, cleaning, mainly when the rest of my family is not contributing, somehow puts me into a “victim” mode of thinking, which is a very slippery slope for me.

Online shopping

Just as social media, online shopping wasn’t designed for a quick in and out experience. We go on sites and come out hours later forgetting what we initially wanted to buy but having at least a couple of cute things for the kids or us in the shopping cart.
Browsing is time-consuming and provides a tiny reward regarding long-term satisfaction.

Cook

If cooking is your version of meditation, then use these first hours of your day doing that. But if it’s a burden and duty, skip it for another time.

Watch TV

Once again, the purpose of waking up in the morning is to recenter on your soul, being mindful and silent and start a day focused on yourself. Watching TV provides fantastic entertainment, but it is also sucking us into imaginary worlds. Coming out of that world abruptly and into the reality of your own mundane existence will be a rough transition. If TV is your thing, save it for the evening or nap times, but don’t start your day consuming entertainment.

Waking up early can provide an excellent head-start for our day. Its purpose is not to add even more hours of work but to center our intention and give meaning to our actions.

Spending the first hour of the day focused on self-care, silence, mindfulness, and gratitude is a guarantee for your day to continue in the same manner.

Oppositely, when we start our day tending to other people’s needs (even when those people, usually our kids, by definition, need us the most and it is our job to take care of them selflessly), we are very likely to deplete our resources of patience and joy. Over time this will transform into bitter interaction, nagging, victimizing or a tendency to control.

The dangers of this slide are many, and even though it seems so obvious, it goes slightly against our nature and culture to prioritize our wellbeing.

But even when we intend to be up before everyone else and use this time to recharge, we do things that don’t make us feel how we want to feel. And so we get discouraged and instead of tweaking the activity, we ditch the whole process and say things like:
“I’m not a morning person.”
“These times are just supposed to be hard. It will get better when the kids are older.”
“Today was terrible. Tomorrow I might get lucky, and it will be easier.”

The only luck you need to change is your perception of priorities and time. What will be the first and only thing you will do tomorrow morning?

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